How To...Discover Yourself

Hi, I am Chereka Phillip and I have been honored by Tiara to write about a journey that I started about 2 years ago that has really helped me give purpose to my life and find inner peace in myself. 


1.   Houston…We have a problem!

In December of 2015 I graduated undergrad with no job, starting a master’s program that I was quickly finding out I wasn’t going to enjoy and supporting my husband while he was in law school. It was a very stressful time for me and I felt like I had lost my purpose because my life was not going as I expected when I was growing up. As a child I geared my life up for becoming a doctor because that’s what I thought I wanted to do, until I started seeing that I didn’t like science in college. So, now that I had finished my undergrad I felt like I didn’t know what I wanted. I didn’t know what I wanted out of my husband, myself or my life’s legacy. 


2.   Surround yourself with the right people.

I continued to spiral until May when I went out to dinner with a friend that was older that saw that I was struggling and when I expressed my feelings she said around my age she experienced the same conundrum. She is a blogger and she inspired me to consider doing the same for myself and that is where Lucky23 was born. Over the following months, she guided me in the process of building my own blog and I took the time to reach out to my friends that were similar in age and started to have some real conversations about the hardships we were experiencing during our transition to adulthood. 


3.   Finding your voice

Between my own thoughts and my conversations, I started to feel comfortable enough to write. I didn’t publish a lot of my writings because they were therapeutic and I wasn’t ready to express them at the time. I started to identify what I wanted out of life, I wanted to just LIVE. I wanted to experience happiness, I wanted to dive into love, I wanted to see what beautiful things there are in the world, I wanted to finally let everyone see me. I saw that my post was not only about helping myself but providing my experiences to others in their 20s so they will know that they are not alone anymore and there is a safe outlet to experience the transition to adulthood. 

This discovery has led me to the most inner peace I had ever felt, I even took a year away from writing and I noticed that I started spiraling again and this has motivated me once again to not stray away. I truly had discovered myself and I can’t thank my friend that inspired me enough for the gifts she bestowed upon me. 


4.   Create your own path

Discovering yourself comes in many formats, mine apparently came from expressing myself through writing. Finding yourself will come in your own way you just have to take the time to observe what is therapeutic to you. Find something you are interested in, this may require you going out on a limb and experiencing different thing. Find a trustworthy and wise friend that you can tell your truth too and see what advice they may have. Write to yourself about your feeling and come back to them later to see what you learn about who you are. 


5.   Progress is a slow process

At the end of the day, there is no straight and narrow path to finding yourself and you will have to do some deep digging. This is not an overnight process and you will feel uncomfortable with the growth that you experience but when you discover yourself there is a level of peace you will experience that is incomprehensible. I wish you all the best of luck on your journeys, everyone has a special gift to offer to the world. You just have to find your gift!



Please visit my blog at www.Lucky23Blog.comand connect with me on Instagram @IAm_Lucky23