How To...Have It All
Too many times society tries to convince us that we can’t possibly have it all, I would like to challenge that notion as completely untrue. In order to do this, you have to know what having it all means for you. Do not allow society to determine that for you, think very clearly what it is you want to achieve in life and work towards that. Now that you have a working definition of what it means for you to have it all, we can discuss how to go about having it all.
1. Find the Time
Too many times I hear people saying what they don’t have time for and what they aren’t able to fit into their schedule. I call bullshit! You have the ability to make time for any and everything that you find important to you. My job involves me working 50-70 hours in a retail environment with an hour commute each way. I find time to be involved with my sorority, coach cheerleading, work on my business, regularly attend church functions, be a good friend and spend time with my family. Sometimes when I sit and think about all that’s on my plate, it gets overwhelming but for me this is having it all for me. Granted I would love to be working my business full time, but in the meantime it’s my current reality to have to work my regular job also.
2. Eliminate excuses
“Excuses are the tools of the incompetent, used to build monuments of nothingness”. Do not accept excuses from anyone, especially yourself. You have to want to achieve your goals more than the convenience of your excuses, when you make excuses for yourself your allowing yourself to fail. I don’t know about you but I refuse to allow myself to fail or drop the ball on myself, to be frank I expect better of myself. When I set a goal it doesn’t matter what excuses try to get in the way (being tired is my recurring attempt) I do not let it stop me from getting what I said I want.
3. Make sacrifices for what you want
When I decided to move forward with my business in efforts of working towards full time entrepreneurship, coaching cheerleading, and reactivating with my sorority I knew it would require sacrifices when you add that on top of a busy and an unpredictable work schedule. Ultimately I decided that I was going to work past the challenges and make strategic sacrifices to move towards the things that make me feel fulfillment in life. For me, my major sacrifice was sleep and relaxation time, despite my deep love for both. I just decided that every single day I’m going to work towards my goals and spend every minute of my day productively.
4. Actions speak louder than words
I’ve gotten to the place where I have little patience for people who are all talk and little action. There are some who will talk about what they plan to do literally all day and will waste a day, week, month, or even year talking about what they want to do. But what have you actually done? Because to me that is more important than what you say you’re going to do. I have even gotten to the point where I will not even share certain goals until I have begun putting action behind that goal. You have to get to a point where you are more focused on producing the results than you are explaining your intentions.
5. Earn your sleep
This concept of earning my sleep has pushed me further than I could’ve ever imagined. Every single day I require of myself to do something that benefits my goals without fail or I will have to sacrifice sleep for the day. Earning my sleep has required me to put action behind going after the things I said I wanted. This consistent productivity is one of the top contributing factors of my success and growth towards my goals of having it all. I challenge everyone to have this requirement because it will set your plans in motion in an incredible way.
Don’t let anyone else tell you what having it all should or could look like in your life, regardless of their role in your life. You have to determine what that means for you and go from there. I used to feel pressured to get and finish my masters, until one day I realized it wasn’t what I truly wanted for me. I allowed my family and then boyfriend to persuade me that getting my masters was the right thing for me, when in reality I knew deep down inside it wasn’t what I wanted. Now that I know what I really want out of life I know the debt, time, and energy I used working on my masters was essentially a waste of my time. Don’t waste your time going after things you aren’t passionate about.